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Pretty much nobody gets through life without some kind of struggle. We all have our problems to deals with whether that be a failing relationship, a mental illness, a physical health issue, or a tough work situation. That’s just for starters! When we struggle, we all have ways of trying to cope to get through the day without completely sinking under the weight of our struggle. Unfortunately, many of the coping techniques we adopt end up doing us more harm than good. There are things to stop doing when you’re struggling to keep it from getting even worse.
If you’re doing any of the following 4 things when you’re struggling, it could be a good idea to stop and find a healthier way to cope instead.
Comparing yourself to others
Comparison is, as they say, the thief of joy. If you’re already struggling, the last thing you need to do is look at your best friend’s Instagram page where she’s absolutely crushing it and living her best life. That’s only going to make you feel worse about yourself. The only person you should ever compare yourself to is you. If you can do a little better each day than you were the day before, then you’re doing well, and even if you can’t, you can always try again tomorrow. Trying to measure up or surpass other people should not be your primary concern right now. Every single one of us is on our own different journey. You are unique. You (and no one else) fits into a particular mold. Stop listening to the media and social channels to find worth. Your worth comes from you being uniquely you. There’s nothing more valuable.
It can be tempting to drink a little more or smoke a little more when you’re struggling to cope, and sure, it might make you feel better in the short term. In the long-term, however, it will only make things worse, If you don’t end up with an alcohol or marijuana addiction, you’ll probably find yourself even less able and motivated to make the changes you need. You’ll start to struggle more, not less, and fixing the new mess you’ve created could end up being an even bigger problem than the initial one.
When you’re having a tough time, the worst thing you can do is keep it to yourself. Being able to talk to a close friend, relative, or maybe even a therapist, about your issues, will help you to work through them, stress less, gain perspective and get the support you need to get yourself back on track, Start talking. If you feel like you don’t have anyone you can talk to, visit your local church and speak with the pastor or care ministry. I even had a side of the road chat at a local gas station on my way to see my dad who is at the end of his life on hospice. I stopped at a gas station on the way and two ladies were on break in the parking lot. I asked to bum a cigarette (actually tried to give her a dollar) and she was so sweet to give me one and her co-worker was so sweet to give me some donut holes she was munching on. They were so kind to listen to me bawl my eyes out and told me about their experiences when their dads had passed away. I’m pretty sure I couldn’t have made the rest of the 5 hour drive safely if it hadn’t been for them chatting with me and giving me a hug. If you find yourself not having anywhere to turn to for solace, leave me a comment below. I usually have a pretty encouraging spirit and love to help people as I’ve been helped so much in my life.
Doing too much
The last thing you need to do when you’re struggling is to overschedule yourself. When you’re already having a tough time, it can be tempting to throw yourself into work or family commitments but more often than not, that just makes things worse, You break down and burn out. What you need to do is take a step back, clear your schedule as best you can, and take time for yourself. Spend some time pampering yourself, relaxing with a good book, and thinking really deeply about life. Get some therapy and come back to being busy when you’re really ready to do so if you want to get busy again at all.
If you can stop yourself from doing these four things, your struggle will be less of a struggle and you will be better able to heal.
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