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While it is possible to be completely oblivious to your own character traits, behaviors or daily habits, many people are all too fine-tuned when it comes to understanding and generating their own physical insecurities. In some ways, we wish we were different. We might not fully enjoy the shape of our nose, or are self-conscious about our height. In some respects, birthmarks or physical abnormalities can erode our confidence if we do not accept them as part of us.
Of course, immutable characteristics are never something to be ashamed of, and anyone who makes you feel differently is someone not worth having in your life. Unlike losing weight and recovering from obesity, you should not feel opposed to simply accepting how you are and doing so with the recognition that you, yes you, are enough. However, after a lifetime of feeling vulnerable and somewhat unhappy in certain perceived flaws, getting over this can require effort and wisdom to find the best result.
Thankfully, it’s more than possible to achieve this, provided you go about this process in a careful and considered way. To that end, we’d like to posit the following:
Accepting yourself is an essential part of getting over your perceived flaws. Spend some time with it. For instance, you may never wear a dress (or another piece of clothing) because you’re afraid of how your figure might look. But what if you invested in a nice item that fits you well, and gave you the chance to accept how you look? Might it be that through continual wearing of items like this that previous imaginary border no longer exists? You’d be surprised just how much you may like it. This approach can help people truly see themselves in a new light, and that’s a beautiful thing for the most part.
Improving yourself is an important part of feeling comfortable in yourself and your flaws. This can sometimes seem like it’s the opposite of accepting yourself, but that’s not always the case. For instance, the best implant dentist can help you restore the beauty of your smile back to how it should feel, because having damaged teeth shouldn’t be considered an immutable characteristic you should always worry about. Provided you change to be healthier and for the right reasons, improving yourself should never be looked at as a negative change.
Challenging yourself, much like with the prior dress example, can be important. But why not try new styles, or try more masculine or feminine dress, or maybe even tailor an item of clothing to your own look? Why not try a different hair color, or hair at different lengths? The more you can give yourself that opening to try, the less you’ll feel fixed in a certain direction, and that will help you avoid caring so much about your physical ‘flaws’. This is because you will be addressing, at the root, how those flaws may have made you behave in the first place.
With this advice, we hope you can get over your perceived physical flaws in the best sense. Remember what matters isn’t how you look on the outside as much as how you feel on the inside. You being alive is a 1 in 100+ trillion likelihood just the way you are. And if that isn’t a miracle and beautiful, I don’t know what is!
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