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There is nothing more heartbreaking than seeing a loved one in the throes of addiction. While we see them embracing a coping mechanism so they can survive the problem they are going through, internally or externally, we have that additional perspective that what they are doing isn’t necessarily good for them. And as difficult as it is, we can’t directly tell them what to do. When they’ve made the admission that they want to recover, it’s our duty to be there for them. But are there good ways to help a loved one recover from an addiction?
Provide More Than One Answer
Regardless of the issue, if we push one treatment option as the primary method, it’s unlikely that they will go for it. Our job is to support them through their recovery. Even if they are going through the professional methods, whether this is through a wellness center like Lake Charles, or they are undergoing their own process, it’s up to them to put the tools they’ve been given to work. As such, we can’t tell them which direction to go in, but rather, give them an abundance of tools and let them make sense of it. The desire the person has for their recovery is what will help them the most. It is not something you can give them or nag them into. Essentially, recovery is up to the addict.
We all do not want to be told what to do. And as much as we’d like to grab our loved one, shake them, and get them to snap out of it, it’s not going to provide the appropriate results, or even the right reaction from the person you hold so dear. We need to provide them with the options, but not tell them which ones to use. We could feel that we can guide them, but this doesn’t necessarily help them come to a satisfactory conclusion. Instead of dictating, we have got to provide support. After all, what may work for us won’t necessarily work for them. But there are things that we can support them with that we all know to be beneficial in a general sense, such as improving their diet or helping them get healthier and other ways. We can certainly try to help them to come around, but if we told them directly what to do, would they necessarily learn the lesson?
Give It Time
One of the most agonizing aspects of recovery is the time it can take. Also there are “false starts.” The addict may start down a good path but fall back into their old ways and repeat this cycle over and over. We could be frustrated that it’s taking too long. But this is one of the things that we’ve all got to come to terms with. When a loved one is going through a difficult time, there is no such thing as a predetermined time frame. This is as much a lesson to us as it is to them. What’s important is that they are making inroads in the right direction. Everything takes time, and if we want a satisfactory result, we’ve got to bear through it.
When a loved one is going through any sort of trouble, our instincts could be to shield them from the negativity, but this doesn’t work; it’s always about ensuring that the powers to recover are available to them and they are willing to change.